Things, people who are close to you and you feel attached are the only one who have the power to put you in pain and misery, because you have allowed and empowered them in the first place to hostage your happiness and security. Once you have a reason for your happiness and security outside you, you will always be like a puppet playing in the hands of these outside forces, people or things. We all are free to choose things and people we like. We become friends, close friends, even lovers. When the closeness increases, so does the vulnerabilities to being hurt and suffer.And at the end what remains is broken heart filled with pain and bitterness, and confused mind which becomes cynical and negative, towards people and relationships. So how does one not suffer, and at the same time remain completely involved with people and things around, enjoying each and every moment to the fullest?
The important thing is not that you suffer and have pain, that is ought to happen, the only important thing is that, why in the first place do you have to find your happiness, worth , security and comfort in outside world? What makes you to seek things in the outside and then feel good about them, and then when you lose them you are shattered? And all the time in between what keeps on going is roller coaster ride of your emotions and feelings, which make you feel happy at one instant and disappointed at the next. Why is your search for all things in life based on the outside, when you know that the only things which will give you company and is with you all the time is your own mind, heart and body.?Why not invest in the real gold within us, so that all your external crutches which make you feel and look like a handicap are thrown away.
The reason for your outside search is because there is a person within you who want to be loved, approved and appreciated by others. Your competition is with the other person who has got more of the outside approval, appreciation and worth from others. Your parameters of being happy and feeling good is only this, How much more have I got than the people around me? And this competition never ends. In fact you think human life is all about becoming better than the others at any cost and struggle to survive.
Once you realize that your true competitors are not outside you, but on your inside, your own, faulty and messed up beliefs about who you are and what life is all about will you be able to extricate yourself from this labyrinth of human condition, of suffering and misery. Remember, its you and only you who have created and lived your life so far, so its only you, who will have to firmly put your foot down to get things done the right way. And the right way is not out there in any kind of God, religion, father in the heaven, holy sprit etc. The right way is inside you. The power is within you. Have faith in yourself first, that you as human being deserve nothing lesser that the best. Once you find your own worth, security and comfort inside, there shall be no longer any seeking to be done outside.
Always in your faith,
love peace joy blessings
Sakha-The Eternal Friend
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