What does Sakha means and why I call myself as Sakha?

Dear friends if you must have read my personal opinions which I put here on Face Book or read my article, on my blog, you must have observed that I finish the article by mentioning, Always in your faith, Sakha The Eternal Friend. Now I would like to tell you about how and why I chose this name.
First of let me tell you what does Sakha means. Sakha means friend in Sanskrit, and if you as person would have lived your life to the fullest during some moment with some person, one thing which you will agree on is that to enjoy any relationship with any person, one needs to have a bent of friendship in it. So whatever might be the relationship you share; family, relatives , colleagues and friends, its only when you are with your friends that you really enjoy, open up without inhibitions, become natural and share deep chemistry and very personal and meaningful moments with them. Obviously you might say that you are free and very open to your father, mother, brother, husband, wife etc., but that freeness and openness has come only when one of you or both of you have agreed to be more like friends, so that the relationship stays alive and fresh. If not then the relationship is very dull, passive, and for namesake.
Hence only when, if you try to have a friendly kind of relationship with your parents, with your colleagues, with your neighbors, etc. rather than, just living by the set code of the ordained relationship, all the three entities, i.e., the relationship, the other person and your self as an individual are addressd and taken care of in a genuine way. Because in a true friendship there are no pretensions, no acts or hidden agendas that have to be fulfilled. Only true a friend can accept someone as friend as he/she is, without judging him /her on personal or any other basis.
But before going out and befriending others, you have to befriend the person within you without any regrets , conflicts and comparisons. Hence you, who truly are, mighty and infinite needs to take over and embrace the person who you think you are with all its mistakes, good, bad, evil, fears, like, moods etc. This person is very scared and anxious, and needs to be loved and accepted first than any one else, before you move on to love and accept some person outside. Once that person within you feels that there is someone who will always be faithful, loving , caring and understanding just like a true friend, as a Sakha, will that person slowly transform itself to its full potential. Once you make friends with this person, there will be a very open, clear and honest communication without any blocks or inhibitions, and this relationship of friendship within you, will be the best friendship ever, you would have had in you entire life, and will stay forever. What you need to show is total faith in your powers and faith in the person whom you befriend, without any judgment or reasoning going beyond logics. And the person within you will always be grateful to you, as a friend for helping it deserve its rightful position and potential, and when once this happens, this friend of yours will be all ready to be friends with each and everybody without expecting anything in return. And this is the real power of true friendship, accepting someone as they are, loving them unconditionally and then let the unconditional love take care of whatever needs to be done. No pushing, no complaining, no undue expectations, only love, joy and blessings from your heart. No other relationship has this kind of beautiful form and essence, since all the relationship including of people who want to be friends to fulfill their needs, are based on some expectations, judgments and approval of yourself as person.
And hence I have chosen the name Sakha, only after befriending the person within me, accepting it as it is, and letting it get transformed up to this point, where it naturally wants to pour out it’s love and joy to others without wanting anything in return. It wants all its relationships to be inclined towards and based on true and pure friendship without any mean motives to be fulfilled. It just want to see all its friends, just happy, enjoying and living the life to the fullest all moments, and nothing else!
In fact my name itself Amit in Jewish means a friend and in Hindi means, infinite/eternal, hence Sakha-The Eternal Friend. And the eternal friend is that person within you, who stays friends with you eternally..Forever!
Always in faith,
Love peace joy blessings
Sakha-The Eternal friend

There is no way OUT, unless you don’ t look IN!

Things, people who are close to you and you feel attached are the only one who have the power to put you in pain and misery, because you have allowed and empowered them in the first place to hostage your happiness and security. Once you have a reason for your happiness and security outside you, you will always be like a puppet playing in the hands of these outside forces, people or things. We all are free to choose things and people we like. We become friends, close friends, even lovers. When the closeness increases, so does the vulnerabilities to being hurt and suffer.And at the end what remains is broken heart filled with pain and bitterness, and confused mind which becomes cynical and negative, towards people and relationships. So how does one not suffer, and at the same time remain completely involved with people and things around, enjoying each and every moment to the fullest?
The important thing is not that you suffer and have pain, that is ought to happen, the only important thing is that, why in the first place do you have to find your happiness, worth , security and comfort in outside world? What makes you to seek things in the outside and then feel good about them, and then when you lose them you are shattered? And all the time in between what keeps on going is roller coaster ride of your emotions and feelings, which make you feel happy at one instant and disappointed at the next. Why is your search for all things in life based on the outside, when you know that the only things which will give you company and is with you all the time is your own mind, heart and body.?Why not invest in the real gold within us, so that all your external crutches which make you feel and look like a handicap are thrown away.
The reason for your outside search is because there is a person within you who want to be loved, approved and appreciated by others. Your competition is with the other person who has got more of the outside approval, appreciation and worth from others. Your parameters of being happy and feeling good is only this, How much more have I got than the people around me? And this competition never ends. In fact you think human life is all about becoming better than the others at any cost and struggle to survive.
Once you realize that your true competitors are not outside you, but on your inside, your own, faulty and messed up beliefs about who you are and what life is all about will you be able to extricate yourself from this labyrinth of human condition, of suffering and misery. Remember, its you and only you who have created and lived your life so far, so its only you, who will have to firmly put your foot down to get things done the right way. And the right way is not out there in any kind of God, religion, father in the heaven, holy sprit etc. The right way is inside you. The power is within you. Have faith in yourself first, that you as human being deserve nothing lesser that the best. Once you find your own worth, security and comfort inside, there shall be no longer any seeking to be done outside.
Always in your faith,
love peace joy blessings
Sakha-The Eternal Friend

The Power of Surrender and Acceptance

You must have heard people talking about the power of now, and how it gives one an immense sense of strength and joy. But the power of now, i.e. living in now is not that easy to achieve as told by people who have experienced it. In fact the people who have experience the power of now is not by trying to live in now, instead living in now happened to them as a natural side effect to something which they did. Hence one can’t live their life just by telling oneself all the time that one has to live in now, and then after sometime forgets about it. One needs to realize the hidden principle that works behind, which leads to a simultaneous and spontaneous state of living in now, without even you or someone reminding you to live in now.
Do you know what that great principle is? It is the initial power, which you have to show first, which will lead to the so called infinite power of now in a very easy and natural state, without struggling to achieve it. And that power is the power of complete acceptance and total surrender. Only if someone who dares to completely accept his/her situation in life including his miseries, sorrows and pains that they have experienced so far, as an inevitable and inextricable part of human life just like so called happiness and joy , will they have taken the first step towards living in now. When I say total acceptance that acceptance is of the totality of life and yourself as an individual with varied personality.Total acceptance of everything which is offered by life without any unnecessary struggle to fight against the so called vices in them and negativities of life, will give you some sanity and clarity to your mind.
The situations appear to be good and bad from your own subjective and personal frame of reference, hence for you to accept the situations as they are you have to accept your personality, your, beliefs, attitudes and ego as it is, and be more objective and show willingness to transform your life.Once you accept yourself as person as it is , love that person, feel good and comfortable living with the person within you without having any conflicts and confusion on your inside, you would have taken the second step towards living in now.
Now the third and final step of living in now is total surrender. Now who will surrender to whom? I am not asking you to surrender to any Guru, God or Religion or some philosophy of life you find inspiring.The surrender is on the inside and an attitude of your inner being. It is the person who you think yourself to be, who is struggling, suffering, at the mercy of outside circumstances and people around, that has to surrender, to; who you really are.
Surrender is not for the one who are weak , selfish and living in ignorance. Only an individual with real courage, burning desire to set himself free from all the miseries and sufferings, so that he/she could spread and share true love and joy to others, can surrender one’s egoistic person to ones true self. And this surrender leads you to see things with much more clarity and in a fearless way, since the person who was scared, suffering, confused and hurt, now is in the company of someone who is much greater, powerful than the person itself. And that person is in your mind, it is all over your mind, and hence total surrender means surrendering your self with the spirit and attitude of allowing your mind and that person to be taken care by its right and duly care taker and creator.
One can never take care of ones mind by handling and controlling it with mind itself. It will definitely resist and fight it with more power ferociously. Your mind will fight against your own mind, your beliefs and thoughts will be at clash and conflict with your own beliefs and thoughts. In fact surrendering is sheer science. It’s a science based on the flow of energy and it’s dynamics. Energy always flows from a state of high concentration to low concentration. It is only when there is an energy gradient between two entities will the energy flow from the entity which has more energy to the entity with lesser energy.
The mind does not belong to the person. The person itself is the creation of the mind which is all worried, confused and suffering, because the way you have fed your mind has been all wrong, hence the wrong outcome. So the best thing to do is to surrender that untrained and unclear mind along with faulty and un-groomed person, in the hands of the right one under whose guidance and mighty power it will get transformed and renewed into a mind which will be full of clarity and peace. And this is the first requirement to have a glimpse of your true self which will be reflected by that clear and tranquil mind, which will lead to the lining in now stage in a very spontaneous and natural way.
So don’t try to live in now. Accept and surrender, for it to happen on its own.
Always in your Faith
Love peace joy blessings
Sakha-The Eternal friend